The Mechanics

Good morning to you all.

Today I am going to skip my mechanics day to discuss a quote I read yesterday that I think is quite profound.

"Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world." Eckhart Tolle

If you are at a place inside yourself where you are conscious of what you feel the world isn't giving you, this quote makes a lot of sense. Ultimately, it is never about what the world isn't giving you, it is about what you aren't giving the world.

There were days when I was so sad and caught up in my sadness (after my divorce) that I just couldn't see anything happy. I was then creating sadness for myself in my world as well.

We all have moments like this in our lives sometimes. But we don't have to allow our feelings to take over every situation that comes upon us. You can actually learn to step back from your feelings, it's not easy but it really works.

And that doesn't mean you don't feel things strongly, it just means you aren't reactive about the feelings that come up. You experience them from a different place than your ego. You don't take the feelings personally but instead let them flow through you. This helps you avoid getting stuck, but it also helps you keep sadness as a process you need to go through rather than a way of life.

I now know all the steps (the process) people go through after getting a divorce. Everyone may handle the steps differently but everyone I've met has gone through them in their own way.

I have decided that I am going to give back to people what I think they are withholding from me. Chances are they aren't withholding anything at all. It's more likely that I just wasn't ready to receive what they were ready to give.

That's one thing I have found divorce can do to you: It can make you fearful of relationships. There can be that voice in the back of your mind that says 'What if this relationship fails too?'

Well, if you think like that it surely will. But another thing divorce teaches you is that even if a relationship does fail (and sometimes they just do) you can survive it. Why? Because you already did.

That is the beauty of experience. So I am going to take Tolle's advice and whatever I think people are withholding from me, I will give them.

I look forward to experiencing the results.

A demain.